Baby Name

May has been turn out to be a BIG month for both of us. We are ready to welcome our new member our first baby. Though it's a tough experiece to go through the nine months with this big stomach but I truly enjoyed to be a mom. Her every kick, every heart beat, every movement reminding me of how great that God does created a new life for us. She is our very first "combined product" where as the sperm which contains hubby's heridity fused with the egg released from a me. She will carries the DNA transferred from both of us and should we call her as our product?

We are now actually waiting for the baby to come. We are not sure when is the right timing for her to explore this new world and all we can do is wait patiently. She is still active in my womb every day nad night. Fortunately, I able to catch a good night sleep now but have to wake up to pee for few times at night. I am happy with this as this is a good sign shows that my baby is dropping now and she is ready to come out now.

Well, back to my main topic. Honestly, it's not easy to pick a good name for a baby. We actually start to look for a good name at the beginning of my pregnancy and now 9 months had gone and we only manage to come out with few choices. Since the dad-to-be is not good in mandarin and thus i got to scratch my head to think of a good meaningful name for our newborn.

Here are the some shortlisted names:
1。逸宁(calm and soft mannered)
2。逸曦(peace like a quite morning)
3。瑶涵(kind-hearted)

1. Eryn (calm)
2. Serene (calm)
3. Elyse(soft -mannered)
4. Hannah (God blessed girl)

Though we are very sure going to have a baby girl but to play safe we also pick some suitable name for baby boy:
1。长隽(clever and smart man)
2。长航(no special mean, just simply give this name as the dad to be love deep sea fishing)
3。长恺(joyous baby)

1. Ethan

Sooner or later.......

I am here again. I just can't stop the urge to blog again today.

I rang up my OB this afternoon and suprisingly he is back from his holiday. I told him my problem and without any further explaination, he wanted me to go to hospital immediately. So both of us make a trip to hospital again where I was thinking maybe I won't be sent home after this trip.

We managed to reach the hospital at four and luckily there is no long waiting queue and we got to see the OB immediately. After those usual checking procedure and OB perform a pelvic exam for me to check the effacement level and the cervix dilatation. Evaluation been done and found out I'm still 0cm dilated with a very soft cervix which means that I will deliver anytime from now since I have regular abdominal pain these two days.

Well, I don't know is this a good new or a bad one for me. I always lost my temper and asking hubby when can i get over this hardest moment. I always wanted to wave a goodbye to my big stomach and always wanted to hold my little precious princess in my arm. But when come to this stage, I feel so worried all of a sudden. I couldn't figure out why I feel so. Maybe it's due mainly to the delivery story i heard from other and learned from books, magazine and internet. I am the type who can't tolerate well with pain and I really can't imagine how am I going to bear the pain while I am in active labor and in the delivery process. At first, I opt for the pain-free labor but i've changed my mind now and choose to have a natural birth without any anethestic. I just pray that i can manage everything well with the blessing from God.

It seems like I'm running out of time now. I should really look into my preparation now. We should really short-list the baby's name by now. I should set up my baby cot, I should unpack all the baby apparels, feeding bottles, toys etc. I should figure out the type of formula i'm going to feed my baby. I should finalize the confinement period diet plan. There seems alot of things I should get ready before being sent into the labor wad. And most of all I should grab this precious time to do whatever I love like having a quite dinner with my hubby, watchinng my favourite TV shows.....before my baby is out (and of course before my time is fully occupied by this precious princess).

34th week

进入第三十四周怀孕期，但是我还是无法习惯带着一粒球过每天的日子，感觉很辛苦很沉重。

今天作了三十四周的产检，我们两可谓是为了这一次的产检，盼得颈都长了。是因在过去的几次产检我们都要求医生为我扫描，但是他每次都推迟到下一次的产检。有时候，我们还真的摸不着头脑为什么他常常违我们的意。今天总算事与愿为了。但是，可悲的是他非常草率的给我做扫描，就连孩子的长度他也没量，就关机把我们打发走了。我心里一直埋怨为什么这个医生会这么草率的看诊，我们每次产检花的费用可不少，但是他常常就是敷衍我们几句，就把我们打发了。有时候，我还未必能够从他口中得到我要的答案。

这是我的第一个孩子，我们当然有很多的疑问，有很多的不知道，但是可悲的是我们虽是看专科但是有时候觉得我们并没有得到一点的专业质询服务。还得每一次又突发状况是被他的话吓得半死。真的是花钱自讨苦吃！

不过，话说回来，今天总算知道孩子的体重了，她已长胖了，2.239公斤。但是超音波扫描显示，她的体重有点偏低。看来，我还是得更加努力的把她养得更胖点。扫描也显示她的头壳会比一般大点，但是还是在标准里。医生说这是好现象，因为一般头壳较大的孩子会比较聪明。试问，有哪个父母不想要个聪明的孩子呢。不过他也补充说大头壳的孩子会加重妈妈生产时的负担。

Epidural block for labor

Epidural block is a combination of local anaesthetic and a narcotic that continuosly relieves pain in the lower part of the body.

An epidural is given with a catheter into the epidural space. A small catheter is then threaded through the needle into the space and the needle withdrawn. The catheter is left in placed and taped so that it does not move. The patient can then be given a continuous small amount of medication or be given a bolus dose when the patient begin to have pain. An epidural relaxes the pelvic muscles and the nerves are bathed in the local anesthetic medication which causes an insensitivity to pain. The receiver will still feel the pressure of the contractions and the urge to push. After the baby is born, the catheter is removed.

Great thing about epidural block during labor is allowing a mother to remain fully awake. Additionally, the baby should not be affected in any way. It is also possible to receive a "walking epidural," which still blocks the pain of labour, but leaves you with enough lower body strength and muscle to walk about. The combination of these two becomes much more affective than the two used separately.

While it has its disadvantages too. This anaesthesia may decrease blood pressure and in turn also slow the baby's heart beat. This maybe harmful to the newborn. Beside, in 1 of 100 patients who received epidural block might have possibility suffering for severe headaches due to leakage of spinal fluid.

I did lots of study about this medication since what i mentioned before my tolerance to pain is very limited. I am looking for a effective pain killer which enable me to go for a natural birth without have to cut my stomach to take out my baby. Anyway, I got many opinions from others where they wanted me to take the pain. I have no idea why they have such an opinion. It's not a bad thing for the mom to be, especially the first time mom to be to go for this pian killer rather than put themselve at the most suffering stage.

30th week pregnant mom

I am now into the 30th week of pregnancy and it's just hard to imagine that I still have 10 weeks to go into labor.

This marks the end of my pregnancy honeymoon period and the begin of the hardest path of my pregnancy journey. Well, I have gained a total of 10kgs within this 7 months. I feel harder and harder to carry these weights with me everyday. People said I look chubby now and I know they are trying to use the more good word to comfort me at this stage. Deep inside, I really hope to get rid of these 10 kgs as soon as possible after the baby delivery process. I really hate to dress in those maternity wear everyday. I missed my beautiful dresses very much. I missed my high heel very much. I missed my slim-shaped body very much......

Lets the photo tell the story.....

Do I look like a big potato?

"Guess some of you might can't imagine how do i look like with this big tummy....."

My feet ain't cooperate with me too for where they start to swell at the beginning of 6th month and now i just can't imagine that my feet is 2-sized up compare to the one before pregnant. I did experienced the Carpal Tunnel Syndrome since a month ago. This delibating syndrome caused all my body joints looser where I suffer alot from my hand pain, hand numbness, tingling sensations in the fingers, and now the suffer spread to my hip joint. It's just kind of hard for me to even take a single step or take a single move on the bed at night. I did asked husband why should I suffer for this kind of so called blessed life? Can he try to share some of my suffer-ness too? Why don't he is the one to pregnant in next round? I cried alot now especially when the pain at my hip kill me during my sleeping time. I just can't take the pain easily or i should clarify here my tolerance to pain is very limited.

Let's keep the complaints and pains aside. Pregnancy is a fun experience instead. I enjoy every moment when my princess give me a hard kick or when she is making a turning in my womb. Though she did sleep alot during day light and become more active and awake at night time, but I have nothing to complain whenever she assured me with her movement sand kicks.

I feel like I'm running out of time at this moment. We have no new about the baby cot from dad-in-law for where he insisted to make a baby cot for his new born grand-child. I still have not got any suitable confinement lady for my confinement period. And most of all, I still not emotional prepared to go into labor and delivery yet as what i told before my tolerance to pain is very limited. Although husband suggested me to take up an epidural block during my labor but my health care provider seem like not really recommend me to go for this pain killer. Well, it's all depends on my condition during the time of labor.

I just hope things run smoothly and accordingly from now till the time I meet my baby.

Deep Impact!

Pregnancy not comes as easy at times. I have a friend who's unfortunately lost her baby at her 5th month of pregnancy. She has a preterm labor with early membrane rupture in one morning when she woke up from her sweet sleep. She rushed to hospistal immediately but she still unable to save her baby's life and was undergoing an induce labor with no other choice. This is a damn bad decision for the newly wed husband and wife who desprately wanted a baby.

Her incidence kept floating in my mind and I have run out of idea how to concern a pity mom-to-be like her. I find no suitable words to comfort her at this moment. Life can be so short and it's just like her baby who end his breathe at the age of 5 months. He didnt even have chance to explore the miracle of this world. The mom-to-be didnt's have chance to hold her precious little one in her arm after she is carrying her baby in her womb for few months time and yet he did leave her alone now.

I feel deepest sympathy to the parent-to-be.

The incidence gave me a great impact for my pregnancy. I used to hope to have a baby boy at the beginning of my pregnancy. I did feel so sad when my Doc tell me that I'm going to have a baby girl. I feel so guilty with my expression and thoughts at the time being. In fact, I should be more thankful for the healthy pregnancy. I should be thankful to reach this stage of pregnancy with my baby still moving actively in my womb. I should be thankful for still be able to see my baby throught the scanning screen in my every prenatal appoinment.

I should appreciate this precious special gift from God.

updates

Am 24 weeks and 4 days pregnant now. It took me such a long way to reach this point since i suffered alot during my pregnancy's first trimester. Despite all the severe morning sickness, I sometime is worrying that I'm having mild pre-patrum depression where I had those insane negative feelings and emotions. This ain't happened without a reason. Doc has diagnosed that I'm having a low lying placenta which means that I have higher chances to lost my fetus in any condition.

Well, I should thankful and have nothing to complain since I have reach this point today. My baby is growing well and healthy in my womb. We can see the baby clearly from the ultrasound scanning last month where she is moving actively in the limited space. she used to move alots nowsaday especially after meal. She did moved vigorously at times too where her daddy said she is complaining for the limited moving space in her mom's stomach! According to our Doc, she might be grow up to be a tall baby since her thigh bone is longer than other's baby. I guess she might be inherited my family body height's gene since my bro and sis used to be a tall man and lady. This is weird as both of her parents are considered as a short population.

Talked to Yan last week and she is complaining as I seldom update her with my condition and she never saw even a piece of my picca ever since I'm pregnant. Here are some updates....

I have put on 6.0kg within these six months where this is still consider as normal range. I have my own diet plan where i cut down cabohydrate and fat intake. and do eat lots fruits and protein rich food such as fishes and eggs. do eat lots brocolli and asparagus since it's rich in fiber where it's a need for pregnant mother to prevent constipation. Though I dint put on much weight as other mom-to-be but I still very frustrated with my balloon outlook. This is the fattest me in my past 27 years and am sure the scale will keep on going up again throughout my another 3 months pregnancy..

I'm lucky as there is no black spot developed on face. I am afraid of the growth since there is no cream can help with the removal of these spots. the most effective cream is only able to lighten the spots. I really did lots works for my face along this pregnancy journey since I'm not fair enuogh and I dont want the pregnancy worsen my skin condition. Did bought alot skin care product especially the face cream to avoid the uneccessary problem occurence. Well, I should said I had done a good job though the product did cost me alots.

I'm lucky as there is no stretch mark developed on my skin. The most obvious and irritating problem is the skin itchiness where i used to scratch alots at the beginning. I don't know the exact caused about the irratation itchiness but the problem seem to be okay by now. I am trying avoid most of the body cream since they might contain some ingredient which is harmful to my fetus inside. I always tolerant with the itchiness and had been told myself repeatedly to be patient within this period of time for the good sack of a heathy baby.

That's all for my update this time. I will update you with some of my recent balloon looks in my coming post....

孕妇的特权

已经进入第二十四个星期的孕期了，现在可谓是孕气十足了，前两个星期我还可以一如惯常的于普通的牛仔裤搭配娃娃松身上衣，可现在每天只能与我的孕妇装为伍。所谓是，我已无法逃过别人对我怀孕的好奇心了。。。。

早在好几个星期前，和一帮朋友吃午餐。 他很奇怪的选了楼下的位子，我有些摸不着他的用意，事因楼下位子非常有限，桌子根本容不下我们的人数，而且坏境很吵扎。后来问起他时，他说：因为你怀孕，不能走楼梯。当时候，我又点前腹笑到后背，我告诉他我每天都要上下楼还几次，如果我不能走楼梯，那我岂不是不能回房睡觉。不过，后来想想，对于他的用心我还是蛮感动的。

昨天，到附近的油站添忧。一如惯例的，自助式的添油付款，但是，昨天竟然会有油站的工人向我跑来，接过我手上的添油器，对我说：然我来，你怀着孕，这些汽油的气体对你和孩子有害，还很礼貌的叫我到油站的便利店等候。当时候，我在想，原来孕妇也有特权的呀！很多时候，都很怕别人对我有异样的眼光，也许是一直以来我都很少以这样肥胖的身材视众，所以我特别特别害怕看到人把眼光停留在我身上。 但是，现在我才发现原来孕妇也有很优待的特权。

一直以来，我都不奢望孕妇会有什么特权，我的生活还是一如往常，工作之余还有很多的家务事，每天的早餐晚餐，每次用膳后的收视清洁工作，洗衣，整理不是自己的花园。。。每样的大小事，还是少不了我的份！ 所以，我没有把这个特权看在眼里。

有时候，人就是很软弱。当你特别想要得到一种特别的对待时，你会常常奢望身边的人会看到你的需要和渴望，但是可悲的是，往往他们都不会看到你的需要。话说，因为上个星期，我的秘书放了一个星期的年假， 我必须连她的工作也一拼的完成，所以很常都忙得没时间在午休时小睡片刻，再加上工厂又在这时候进行装修，每天被那些噪音围绕，放了工还得赶回家预备晚餐，有时候还得被家翁批评菜煮得太熟，每次坐下吃晚餐时我已是累得不想说话了，这样还得被家婆讽刺一番。她会问我，你很累呀？那时候，我又点哭笑不得。所以我常常忘了我是一个孕妇，正因为在家里我并没有受到一般孕妇享有的特权。

虽然很常都没有享有这样的特权，但是偶尔受到别人的好心相待，我已心满意足了。

Butterflies in my stomach.....

It's my 19th week pregnancy now. Am glad as I almost reach my midpoint of pregnancy. Should I say now it's the enjoyable period ever since I'm pregnant. Nauseaness, vomitting, dizziness are gone and I can at least live as a normal person now.

I can drive alone now!
I can do the shopping alone now!
I can eat my normal meal now!
I can work as normal now!

Hurray......

And glad to annouce that I first feel the baby's first movements in last week. It's just a quickening which happened and last before I can put my hand on the stomach. People said they feel like butterflies in their stomach but I think it's feel more like growling stomach. The baby is very active nowsaday and naugthy as well. The kicking become more intense when I'm lying on my back and this just reassured me that the baby is growing well in my womb!

It's the most wonderful time for me when the baby is kicking!